Keeping Relationships Balanced: How to Nurture Both Friendships and Romantic Interests


Sometimes, “having it all” can feel impossible, especially when it comes to your social life and romantic relationships.

Between your career, time with your family, and your own hobbies, you might be wondering how on earth you’ll ever feel like you have “enough” time to spend with all of your loved ones.

But it is possible to maintain strong friendships and keep the spark alive in your love life at the same time, even if your schedule is packed. It’s all about balancing your priorities!

Here’s how to make more time for both your friends and your partner and thrive in your relationships when you have a million different things on your plate.

Get Everyone Together

The easiest way to see more of everyone? Get them all together!

As long as your friends get along with your significant other, there’s no reason you can’t sometimes combine the two. So, invite your partner along on casual outings. This gives everyone a chance to get to know each other a bit better.

What could be better than having so many of your loved ones in the same place at the same time?

Do make sure to run this by your friends, though, because it won’t nurture your friendships to be that friend who ALWAYS brings along a partner.

Plan Double Dates With Your Couple Friends

Do you and your partner have a few sets of “couple friends” who you both enjoy spending time with?

Planning more double dates is a great way to balance both friendships and romance. You’ll get extra time with your friends, your partner will get to bond with their friends, and you’ll get to enjoy each others’ company.

Dinner and a concert might even be more fun with another couple!

Make a Standing Commitment

If you’ve got a super busy schedule and you leave your social life up to chance, you probably won’t see your loved ones very often. You’ll end up making vague plans to go out for coffee some time, only to push it to the back burner while you take care of your other responsibilities.

Instead of telling your friends that you’ll see them soon or promising your partner that you’ll be free for date night in a few weeks, you need to pencil social outings into your schedule and stick to them. Maybe Friday nights can be reserved for an evening out with your friends. Saturday night can be a standing date with your partner.

Treat it like any of your other important commitments. You’re booked, and you’ll be there!


Working overtime for the next few weeks? Starting up a side hustle to save up for a major purchase or pay off debt?

Don’t be shy about letting your friends and partner know that your free time is going to be more limited than usual. Chances are, they’ll be understanding.

Sometimes, you really can’t squeeze a second of unstructured time out of your schedule, and it’s okay to admit that. It’s even preferable to just say that rather than risk your loved ones thinking they’ve fallen off your radar. Just be sure to plan something fun when things settle down on your end.

Show Your Love From Afar

If you feel like you haven’t spent enough time with your friends or your partner lately, make the effort to show them how much you care even when you’re not around. A phone call or a Skype session can make up for the time you can’t physically spend together.

Or maybe even think outside of the modern day box and embrace an old-fashioned tradition by sending each other a quick postcard?

Nowadays, people often relocate for job opportunities and leave their old friend groups behind. And couples may end up in long distance relationships for a variety of reasons. But there are plenty of little things you can do to communicate your desire to remain connected, even when you’re far apart.

Are you struggling to balance your important relationships and wondering how to strengthen those connections? Read more here and contact me today to see how counseling can help you nurture both your friendships and romantic life.